Saturday, November 29, 2014
A couple weeks ago we placed my father-in-law in an assisted living facility. It is the nicest retirement home I've ever been in...
There are always lots of activities each day.
I have to say I'm very impressed with this place - no bad smells, everyone and everything are extremely clean and well cared for. When I need to go to a nursing home, I want to go somewhere like this. It's the first place like this I've been in that I would be willing to move into today :) They also have a lockdown memory-care unit that he is on the waiting list to get into. That will be a better fit for him. He wanders a lot and is very confused. But they take residents first for openings over there, so we had to put him there before we could get him into memory care. He still has lots of assistance and supervision. So far, we've been impressed. The unfortunate thing is that it is in a town 100 miles away from us. But we didn't have any other options, and this seems to be a perfect fit.
Sunday, November 2, 2014
Thanks for hanging in there with me, since I haven't been able to post much lately. Life kind of threw us a curve ball, but we're doing well, given the situation. I've been living at my in-laws' house caring for my father-in-law, who has advanced Alzheimer's, while my mother-in-law has been in a hospital about three hours away from home. For the past month, I was first at their house from breakfast to bedtime, trying to help them out, and then this past week I've been living here full time. So our life is a little bit chaotic right now. But "it is what it is" (that's my mantra lately). That, and "playing it by ear." I've caught myself saying those two phrases almost on a daily basis.
Every time someone asks me how I'm doing, I'm surprised by the question. I can honestly say I've been at peace with the whole arrangement. We're not getting everything done that we should be doing at home, and I really miss being with my little guys full time, but it will all work out in the end :) Thankfully my daughter (21) and my husband have been able to help out with the home-front and take care of the boys. And they do still get to spend several hours a day with us. It just doesn't work out very well to have them here overnight. We did try that, and it was a disaster. No sleep for anyone - ha.
I'm sure life will settle down eventually, but it might take awhile for that to happen. For now, we're working on getting through one day at a time. :)